The "I'm not pretty enough" trap and Tiger Woods
If you're like most people, you've probably gotten caught up in this relationship trap at least once in your life--especially if you're a woman...
You worry that you aren't pretty enough, thin enough, or desirable enough to hold a man and keep him interested over the long haul.
Well, if that idea hasn't been debunked many times before, Tiger Woods has blown this myth straight out of the water and here's why...
Otto was talking to his personal trainer yesterday while he was working out and of course the conversation got around to Tiger Woods and his alleged affairs.
Monica, his personal trainer, said that the big question her other clients had was why in the world Tiger would ever cheat because his wife Elin was so thin and beautiful.
Why would he go elsewhere when he had such beauty at home?
Good question isn't it?
A lot of people (especially women) fall into the trap of thinking that "If I were more attractive, a better lover, a better whatever that I'd never have anything to worry about when it comes to my man cheating on me."
WRONG.
It simply isn't the case with Tiger and his beautiful wife Elin.
He apparently went elsewhere because beauty alone wasn't enough to hold him to faithfulness in his marriage.
Now of course we don't know the inner workings of his relationship with Elin and we won't claim to know the real reasons (right or wrong) that drove Tiger to cheat.
What we do know is that being beautiful and thin doesn't insure faithfulness over the long haul.
We bring this up because so many women tell us they're jealous and worry about someone more beautiful or thin stealing their man away.
We know that keeping a relationship alive, juicy, connected, loving and monogamous through the years is so much more.
Recently, we got a copy of T.W. Jackson's book for people who've just gone through a break up and want to get back with their partner or spouse...
The book is called, "The Magic of Making Up" and we highly recommend it and we agreed with much of what he was saying and...
We're paraphrasing here...
He said that men crave admiration and when they feel they aren't getting it--perhaps like they used to--they try to find it elsewhere.
He also said that women want to feel appreciated and praised for who they are--and if they don't find it in their relationship, they may look for it in some other place.
Of course, these aren't the only reasons people cheat or emotionally "drop out" of their relationships, but they are important ones to pay attention to if you want to keep yours vital, alive and growing.
Much more important than beauty and the size of one's body!
When you really get down to it, when you "check out" of a relationship, in whatever way you choose to do it, you aren't getting your needs met.
You may not choose to cheat, as Tiger has, but there are other ways to check out of your relationship...
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