Relationship Advice for Getting Unstuck
It's a fact ...
No matter how "together" you've got your life going... we all have times when we get muddled by our feelings and emotions--and we can't make a decision.
When you get stuck and can't make a decision about something important--what do you do?
If you're like us and almost every one else we've ever met, you do something that works in the short term but usually doesn't work in the long term.
If the decision really is causing you to feel stuck--you most likely withdraw, procrastinate or justify.
Nothing new here, right?
We all do this.
Not every time we're faced with a decision but in the times when we get stuck...this is very often what many of us do.
The problem is that when this happens, we're preoccupied and not truly "present" in our lives and with those we love.
We're just going through the motions of life as we try to work out the decision that's churning inside.
When this happens, we've living in limbo and not really living our lives to the fullest.
Susie had this happen one morning this week.
She's been mulling over whether she should go on a really fun "Dolphin Retreat" to Hawaii that was recently offered to her-- or whether she should say no...
She would love to go but she could also think of all kinds of reasons why she shouldn't go at this time.
And a variety of emotions came up around this subject for her. She not only felt stuck because she couldn't make a decision but she felt "lifeless" and "not there" to Otto during our morning connecting time.
In other words, she wasn't really there with him and since this time we devote to spending with each other in the morning is so important--it didn't feel good to either of us.
She was miles away thinking about the pros and cons of attending the retreat when she should have be there in the present moment
Can you relate in any way to what we're saying?
Have you felt like you had to make a decision and your emotions and thoughts in your head were so overwhelming that you couldn't?
Now of course, Susie's decision about whether to sign up for this retreat or not is pretty inconsequential compared to other decisions that most of us deal with at various times in our lives like staying in or leaving a relationship, where to live, what jobs we should take, where to send our kids to college, what to do with aging parents etc..
Please Note: If you're coming into the new year and you're living with the relationship question of whether to stay in or leave a relationship--then don't make this decision without getting a copy of our "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" book and audio program.
It's such a great resource for helping you get clear about what's really going in your relationship and whether to stay or go is the right question you should be asking yourself right now.
If it is, this program helps you to make your decision with more certainty and ease.
Read what Janice wrote to us recently and said...
"Should You Stay or Should You Go?" helped me evaluate a so-so, long-distance relationship which I ended... and then I found my soulmate. thank you!" Janice
So what are the best ways to get out of your muddle so you can think clearly and make your decision?
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