College Graduation, Intimacy and Becoming an Irresistible Invitation to Love...
It's almost hard to believe but Otto's son, Steven, was not quite 9 years old when the two of us got together.
Now it's nearly 15 years later and this past weekend, we were both proud and excited as we watched him walk
across the stage, get his diploma and graduate from college.
As we watched the graduation ceremony and heard all the names of all the students being called to get their
diplomas, we commented to one another something that also applies just a much to your relationships and your
We said that in today's complex world...
Those diplomas are just the "price of admission" to the land of possibilities...
We also think that just as a college degree and a diploma to hang on your wall are in many cases very impressive,
they don't guarantee you success, happiness or even guarantee you a job.
Attracting a new love into your life, being in a "committed" relationship or being "married' are all things that many
people want --they do not guarantee you a happy relationship and a happy life either.
There's a little more to it than that and that begs the question that you might be having right now...
What do we do and what do other couples who manage to keep the spark alive and make their love last do to make
It's simple really.
We figure out what it will take to be an "irresistible invitation to love" that our spouse, partner or lover can't resist--and we do that every day for as long as we're together.
It's not overly complicated, it's not hard and anyone can become more of an irresistible invitation to love if you are
only willing to try a few new ways of thinking about and looking at your relationship.
We're doing a brand new teleseminar and web audio cast tomorrow (Tuesday, May 22) night where we're going to go in-depth in our discussions of 6 of our biggest secrets to becoming an irresistible invitation to love.
If you're interested in attending, you can find out more about it or sign up here...
In the meantime, we want to give you a strategy you can start using right now for how you can become an irresistible invitation to love that a spouse, partner of lover (current or future) can't resist...
--- Change your focus
Last night, after the graduation, we sat down to watch a little tv--and we stumbled on the old 1989 film "The War of the Roses" starring Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner.
The main characters had what appeared to be the perfect married life together--beautiful, opulent house, great job, plenty of money--but as the years rolled by, you could see how the husband ignored his wife and even belittled her.
It's no surprise that they were headed for a divorce which was what the "war" was about.
Now this was supposed to be a comedy but we didn't think it was very funny because of what we see couples doing every day (and we did in previous relationships) that mimic this film.
They don't focus on what will make them what we're calling an "irresistible invitation to love."
So what does it mean to change your focus?
We'll give you some very simple examples from our lives...
There were plenty of beautiful women at the graduation and Otto focused on on beautiful he thought Susie was--and told her.
He also told her how he appreciated that she had done several kind things to help make his son's graduation celebration special.
Last night, after all the celebrations were done, Otto emptied the dishwasher while Susie relaxed on the couch. Instead of thinking that he "should" be doing something like that, she was grateful and said "Thanks."
It's just a simple change of focus--from "you should" to noticing what the other does and saying "thanks."
That's what was really missing from the fictitious Rose's marriage--They seemed to love each other but the focus of their marriage shifted away from love and ended up in hate.
So whether you're currently in an intimate relationship or not...
What's your focus?
Are you an irresistible invitation to love--no matter what relationship you're currently in?
For most people, if they answered honestly, their answer would have to be "no."
You don't have to be like us and have a relationship like ours to be an irresistible invitation to love.
But the person you want to become irresistible to has to feel it.
It can't be fake, be manipulative or happen once in a while.
This idea of becoming an irresistible invitation to love is something you should do with the idea of never stopping.