One Simple Way to Make Your Relationship Better...
Whew!
When it comes to relationships...
This must be a crazy holiday season for a lot of people because over the last few days we've been deluged by emails and calls for relationship help.
Several people have asked us if we offer on-on-one relationship help in addition to the books and programs we offer...
The answer is YES.
We work with people all over the world by telephone and if you're in our area, we can work with you in person to help you solve whatever relationship challenges are going on in your life.
and here's some good news...
If you want to work with us personally, we have a couple of relationship coaching spots open right now.
To find out more about working with one of us personally or to take the next step, go to
http://www.passionateheart.com/coaching.htm
We know that the holidays are probably pretty busy for you, but in order to have a better, happier experience with the people you love over the next few weeks, how about considering this...
While it's a time to have a lot of things to do and a lot of places to go, it's also time to be in gratitude for the people in your life--especially your intimate and close relationships.
For your relationships to grow deeper in love and connection, gratitude has to be an attitude you carry with you every day.
Gratitude is not only healthy for your relationships but it's healthy for you physically and emotionally.
It's a fact that we've proven over and over in our own lives...
When our thoughts are mostly focused on what we appreciate in ourselves and others, we bring more love, health, prosperity and well-being into our lives.
When our thoughts are mostly focused on what we fear might happen, what upsets us or what went wrong--we bring MORE upset, fear, lack and disconnection into our lives.
So what might hold you back from "being" and expressing gratitude?
You might have any or all of these beliefs about gratitude...
-"If I tell him I'm grateful, he'll stop doing it and quit trying."
-"She doesn't tell me what I'm doing "right" or thank me so why should I tell her?"
-"He'll think I'm needy or that I have an ulterior motive."
-"I'm afraid she'll take advantage of me and think she can run over me if I'm TOO grateful."
The truth is that if you have any of those beliefs, there's probably been a good reason that you developed them.
They served you in some way in the past. They protected you in some way.
The choice for you now is to take a look at what you are believing and decide if you still want to carry those beliefs into your current relationships and the present moment.
Believe it our not, one simple way to make your relationship better and express gratitude is to listen with your full attention.
When you do, it's being grateful and honoring the essence and talents of the other person. It's giving the greatest gift possible--the gift of respect.
And we all want to be loved for who we truly are--not for who the other person wants us to be.
When you start focusing on gratitude and listening, you'll start seeing shifts in your life for the better.
There will be a "softening" between the two of you--even if the other person can't quite put their finger on what is different in you.
Of course you can also work together and make gratitude a fun exercise.
Some people keep a gratitude journal and write 3-5 things they are grateful for that day--and then share them (or not) with someone they love.
This practice helps you to start focusing your attention in a more positive way.
As you move into expressing more gratitude, step out of the norm of just saying "thanks" although that's certainly a good start if you're not doing it already.
Feel into yourself about how you'd like to be appreciated and then stay open to watching how you might show your
appreciation for others in a different way.
We used the example of listening to one another and not insisting on being right as a way of appreciating the talents of the other person.
That's just one example and we're sure you can come up with more ways to express and live gratitude.
Let this holiday be a wake-up call to create more love in your life by opening to more gratitude to flow in and out.
