New Ways to Keep the Spark Alive...
In almost every relationship, the passion and spark fades after awhile--when it doesn't have to.
It sounds so simple to "fix" but when the passion and spark fades in a relationship or marriage, it's often not so easy.
One big problem in relationships is that after a short while of being together, most people stop doing the kinds of things that keep the closeness, passion and spark alive.
Whether it's complacency ("I've got you now I don't have to do anything to keep you") or you and your partner allow other things become more important...
We think this is not only tragic but damaging to your relationship.
Since we're always looking for ideas to pass along to you to keep the passion, love and spark alive in your relationship...
This past week, we introduced you to Michael Fiore's program called "Text The Romance Back" that shows you how to use tiny little text messages sent from your cell phone to perk up the love and passion and send
the spark through the roof again.
Since we work in the same office and are together much of the time, we don't "text" each other much.
But the fact is that millions of couples are apart most of the day and could use some easy ideas on keeping the spark alive.
While we love the idea of sending certain kinds of tiny "text messages" to keep the fires burning brightly between the two of you...
One guy wrote to us and totally disagreed with us.
Here's what he said...
Reader comment >>>>>
He said...
About this "texting the romance back" thing...
"It's really stupid--Now you are really disconnecting the human emotion between man and woman."
Our comments and feedback>>>>>
While we appreciate this guy's feedback, we couldn't disagree more.
We agree with our friend and creator of this "Text The Romance Back" program, Michael Fiore, that if you can send text messages to your beloved one or more times each day that it will increase your love, passion, desire and connection and NOT decrease these emotional aspects of a relationship.
Unfortunately, our reader has missed our point.
The point is that no matter how long you've been together, to find ways to keep the spark and closeness alive between the two of you.
While texting your beloved short messages to keep the connection is certainly not the only way to keep the connection and spark alive, it can be a very important and powerful way.
Maybe texting isn't your idea of romance or connection but the idea is to find something that helps the two of you feel more connected to each other.
And it's never too late to start.
It may feel a little strange to suddenly start connecting more if you haven't been doing it--and if that's the case, start small and do something that maybe you did when you were first together that ignited the spark between the two of you.
One guy told us that he started giving his wife a real kiss when he came in from work instead of a peck on the cheek.
It didn't take any more energy for him to do that but it did take him to remember to get out of his habit of impersonal pecking to allowing himself to truly connect with his beloved.
One woman told us that she stopped making her husband wrong all the time, as was the habit she had fallen into.
She would make him "wrong" about very small, silly things and it always separated them--making both of them feel
terrible.
She learned how to stop herself from saying hurtful things to him and to counteract those critical voices in her head.
They became closer and there was more passion between them because she became more loving toward him.
So you can see that there are all kinds of ways to increase the spark in your relationship.
The idea is to start doing something that will take you closer to your partner instead of further away.
Whether it's texting the romance back or something totally different, we encourage you to find some unique ways to keep the spark and romance back.
If you want more help, we have some really good ideas you can steal from our "Restart the Spark" program.
Just know that the love, passion, romance and spark NEVER has to die.
This is a choice that we all make sometimes consciously and sometimes totally unconsciously.
Every day in our own relationship, we're renewing the commitment we have to keeping love and the spark alive
and we hope you will choose to keep the spark alive too.
Comments
I agree with you one hundred percent. My husband had (thank god it's over) an adulterous affair a few years ago. One of the "tactics" I used to get him back was texting him words of love and encouragement. I knew it worked because he would reply and soon it became a regular thing in our reformed marriage. I now feel weird if I miss a week of not texting him how much I love him.
Posted by: alison figueroa | August 5, 2011 02:36 PM
This all seems great and in doing my homework discovered that it is very much centred on the woman texting the man. Have you got anything for us men who would like to spark things up. Additionally anything that helps build emotional intimacy and connection would be great. Cheers Kel
Posted by: KC | August 22, 2011 12:11 AM