1. Look in each others eyes.

After working with the couples at our workshop, we realized that looking in the eyes of your loved one can be a challenge when you're not used to doing it.

What sounds so simple, may not be so.

If this is the way it is for you and you want to connect deeper, start small and don't be discouraged if it feels awkward at first.

The next time you pass your loved one in the hallway, look into his or her eyes for just a few seconds.

And then practice increasing the time you hold eye contact.

It's like any skill--making eye contact just takes practice.

Why do we "forget" or never learn how to make eye contact especially with those we love?

For whatever reason, making eye contact might feel too vulnerable and revealing.

Not making eye contact can be one way we protect ourselves and put up a shield so we won't be hurt.

This shield might not have anything to do with your current partner--but it may.

So if you have some trust issues coming up as you experiment with making eye contact, you might want
to check out our "Relationship Trust Turnaround"
course.

2. Touching.

During the workshop, we got to see how profoundly things can change for the better when two people touched each other when there wasn't an agenda.

One way to start doing this is to just take a moment and put your hand on your beloved's heart and your beloved put's his or her hand on yours--and then just breathe for a few breaths.

A few couples reported that they felt some peace, relaxation and connection when they did this exercise.

When touching is difficult, this is not an easy exercise.

Again, when trust has been violated by your current partner or in past relationships, even simple touch that has nothing to do with what happens in the bedroom...

Touch can be a challenge.

One step toward making touch easier and more connecting is remembering that you have choice and allowing yourself to make the choice to reach out in a simple way, with non-invasive touch.

Maybe you start with a hand or foot massage.

Whatever feels good to you, we invite you to start touching more to create a deeper connection of the heart.

Remember, it only takes a moment to convey love and caring.

3. Be honest.

Okay, so we know that complete honesty can open up a can of worms that can certainly cause separation and disconnection.

(Take for instance Arnold Schzenegger's revelation that he has a child by a former house employee...)

We're not talking about just the big lies (like what Arnold did)...

What we're talking about are the little omissions and "white lies" that we tell or don't tell on a regular basis that really aren't a big deal.

But the truth is that they ARE a big deal.

If you aren't forthcoming with who you have lunch with (if it's a big deal) or you let some details slide that your partner ends up finding out anyway...

Trust is eroded which can take its toll on the relationship over time.

Telling the whole truth takes only a few moments and can mean all the difference in your relationship.

It can mean the difference between whether trust is the foundation of your relationship--or it isn't.

It only takes a few moments of time to do any of these acts and can make so much difference in your relationship.

What we've learned it's not necessarily the big stuff that happens but rather what happens moment by moment.

Take advantage of every moment you have to connect with your loved ones.

If you do, you'll see a difference in the quality of your life and love.