Relationship Advice from Jack LaLanne
We've got a couple of big things we want to share with you today as well as a very inspiring and motivating article that has some really powerful relationship insights in it ...
First... We're really excited because we just booked the facility where we're going to hold our first ever "Get Closer" weekend seminar that we'll be doing this spring.
This week, we're going to release the first communication program ever "just for men" ... it's our new "Crash Course In Communication For Men" book and audio program.
More details coming soon on both of these things.
and...
In case you missed it from last week's news...
The fitness fanatic and teacher extraordinaire Jack LaLanne died at his home in California at the age of 96 and what a life he lived.
Not only was he a true exercise and fitness pioneer who many years ago invented some of the ways we still exercise today, but when it comes to relationships...
We also don't have too look to far into Jack's fitness and exercise philosophies to show you how these same philosophies can also work to help you create closer, more connected and more passionate relationships and marriages.
Here's how...
When Jack LaLanne said his famous "LaLanneisms" like... .
"It's not what you do some of the time that counts, it's what you do all of the time that counts" and "Anything in life is possible and you can make it happen"
He could have been just as easily have been talking about how to have a happy, joyous and passionate relationship or marriage.
This is because....
While most people believe that it's normal and natural for our bodies to get sick, break down prematurely. most people also believe that it's normal and natural for love, passion and intimacy to fade away and die after the " honeymoon" period of your relationship has passed, but not us.
Most people also don't believe that it's possible to keep passion and close connected intimacy alive for as long as you and your partner are together but we do and our lives are a living experiment about this idea.
This was really funny when this happened....
A few years ago, we went to a large holiday party and part of the entertainment was a magic show.
The magician was very good at playing to the crowd and getting them involved in his show.
When it came to the "slice your assistant's head off" act, he chose Susie from the audience to be his assistant.
In trying to entertain the audience, he made a few wrong assumptions about Susie and our relationship.
He first assumed that we weren't married because we'd been holding hands and sitting closer than most "normal married couples" during his act.
Then he tried to get Susie to admit that things in her marriage weren't really that good and when that didn't work--he then tried to get her to admit that things weren't as good in our relationship as when we first got together.
Fortunately, Susie came away from the night with her head in tact, and we came away with a deeper understanding of a common myth about relationships in our culture.
This myth is that all relationships and marriages naturally deteriorate over time and this deterioration is just a natural evolution in all marriages or long term relationships.
We just don't agree that THIS myth is the way it has to be in relationships.
This is the same myth about health, fitness and longevity that says you can't live a meaningful, vital and productive
life well into what most people consider to be "old age."
When it comes to relationships, we believe that if both people are conscious in their relationship and want to grow individually and together, they do things on a daily basis that promote growth and a deep connection.
What we do to keep our relationship alive, connected and strong is that we both have consciously decided that that
is what we want.
We talk constantly about the things that are important to us and we head off problems before they become unmanageable and out of control.
We use the "Magic Relationship Words" with each other with fantastic results.
For example, we try to express appreciation for each other every day.
We express gratitude for our relationship to each other and in our prayers each day.
We understand and are conscious that we may never have another moment together in this lifetime and because of this, we make every moment precious.
These are not just things that WE do, but are the common ingredients of every successful long-term relationship we
have read about or heard about.
So, we challenge you that if you are currently in an intimate relationship, begin incorporating one or more of these ideas into your daily life.
Take a cue from Jack LaLanne and ask yourself this:
"What are some things that both of us can do on a daily basis to create a closer connection with each other?"
Then follow through and do them!
If you are not currently in an intimate relationship and want to be, decide how you want that future relationship to be.
Be as specific as possible. One of the things we've found is that the more specific you are in asking for what you want, the more likely it is that it will happen.
Then look for and appreciate those qualities in the men and women you meet.
Relationships are just like anything else in this universe of ours...
They are either getting stronger or they're getting weaker.
Whether your relationships are getting stronger or getting weaker depends on your intentions and what both of you are willing to put into the relationship.
Just like Jack said, "...It's what you do all of the time that counts."
