3 Ways to Light Up Your Woman...Without Being Obvious About It
If you want to light up your woman...
It's going to be really important to tell her and show her that you want to light her up.
No...
You're NOT going to go up to your woman next time you see her and say something ridiculous like...
"I want to light you up..."
That probably wont help.
What you do want to do is NOT make it a mystery that she's important to you and you want her--really want her.
If your relationship is like most relationships today..
She wants desperately to feel you and when she cant feel you and your love she will do all kinds of bizarre things to try to get you to show her that you want her and she's important to you.
Question From A Reader...
How can I create more intimacy/passion between myself and my woman without making it seem obvious?
My Answer...
First of all I commend you for wanting to create more intimacy and passion in your relationship with your woman.
This is great because not only are you acknowledging that you want more...
It's showing you that you're different than most guys in that most guys don't want to do anything when they first notice that passion is starting to fade way.
They might notice it but do do anything about it.
Again, it's great that you're not doing that.
The challenge I have with what you are asking is the part where you are wanting to "not make it obvious that you are trying to create more intimacy between you and your woman.
What I do and what other men do who go for what they want is this..
1. Notice
2. Decide and
3. Communicate
I "notice" what's going on...
I decide if it's what I want and...
If it's not what I want--I communicate it to my woman (or whoever I want things to be different with)
Notice I didn't say I made demands.
I didn't say that I would tell her "it has to be this way."
In other words, when I want more from my woman and I want more from my life..
I don't pretend it's not important and I don't try to be "stealth" about it and try to figure out how to get more from my woman and my relationship without her knowing it.
If I want more intimacy from my woman and what I'm going to suggest that our friend who asked this question do is ...
Make it obvious what you want.
Tell her "I'd love to have more of you"
Tell her..
I really want more intimacy from you.
Ask her...
"Would you be interested in spending some alone time together this weekend?
If you're the kind of guy that has trouble saying what's on your mind to your partner, spouse or lover then I highly recommend that you download a copy of the "Stop Talking On Eggshells" program I created with my wife Susie.
This is huge because...
In relationships "covert" doesn't work in lighting up your woman.
Make it obvious what's important to you and what you want.
Don't hide from what you want.
You can't get what you want if you don't identify it and you don't go for it.
Be clear about what you want.
First with yourself and then with your woman.
Your relationship and your life will be much better when you do.
Comments
Great advice! We are not mind readers, the easiest way to get what you want is to ask for it. And as you said, don't demand it. Chances are she feels the same way.
Posted by: L.A. Hunter | April 12, 2010 12:08 PM