When we first started offering our program for stopping jealousy called "No More Jealousy" , we didn't realize that cheating in our culture was as big of an issue and problem as it is.

Now of course, we know that not all men and women in committed relationships cheat.

But many are cheating and have cheated and it's a tragedy .

If you are happy in your relationship and cheating isn't an issue for you, we congratulate you both.

Keep doing what you're doing to stay connected.

Whether you're a man or a woman, If you are suspicious of your partner, take some action to find out the truth.

Suspicion can destroy a relationship as deeply as actual cheating can.

Constant jealousy and nagging questions can drive a wedge between the two of you whether your partner is guilty of what you fear or not.

If you're suspicious and you want to save your relationship, your job is to stop yourself from going into the emotional tailspin of sabotaging thoughts and behavior.

Then become the objective observer and start documenting what's going on.

We go into detail about how to get your emotions under control so you can be the objective observer in our new
course "Where There's Smoke There's Fire: How to Tell if Your Man's Cheating Liar."

(Although we wrote this for women, there's a lot of good information for men here also.)