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3 Secrets of Couples Who Stay in Love Forever

coupledancing.jpg One thing we've discovered about love, relationships, marriage and how to stay in love is...

Great relationships DO NOT happen by accident...

In fact, it's true about not only your relationships, but everything in life...

A great anything does not happen by accident...

Take couples who "fall in love" and "stay in love" for example...

What we've found is that "falling in love" and "staying in love" are two different things.

The falling in love is certainly easier than the staying in love, but for the couples who somehow manage to do both the question is...

How do they do it?

How do these couples seem to beat the odds and do what most couples can't seem to do?

There are several ways that couples keep the fires stoked and burning long after the honeymoon period of the relationship is over.

We're going to share a few of those secrets with you today...

Secret # 1

Couples who stay in love seem to actually talk to each other differently than couples who are headed for divorce court...

Not only do these couples talk to each other differently, but they also use different words than the rest of us when they talk to each other....

They use "magic words" that seem to help open their partner instead of shut him or her down--

They use words that keep their partner interested instead of bored--

In any relationship, what we've found is that words can wound and words can heal.

We've found that the right words truly can make all the difference between whether you stay in love or your relationship becomes a divorce or breakup statistic--

That's why we've put together a collection of the best words you could ever say to your partner if you want to stay in love or even rebuild a love that's faded over time.

We call these "Magic Relationship Words."

And if you'd like to have our collection of 101 of these magic words and phrases to help you say it right with your
partner, you can download them here... http://www.MagicRelationshipWords.com

Secret #2

Couples who "fall in love" AND "stay in love" over a long period of time "ditch competition."

We can't tell you how many times we've seen it in our Relationship Breakthrough Coaching work with couples...

Couples compete with each other about big and small things (even in playful ways) and sit around in amazement
when the life has been sucked out of their relationship or marriage and they are left wondering...


The reason is simple:

In our opinion, there is no room for competition in a relationship between couples who are intimate partners or married.

If you doubt whether this is true or not...

Try this...

The next time that you and your intimate partner or spouse have a friendly little competition about anything, when you are finished, ask yourself one very easy question:

"Do I feel closer and more connected to him or her or do I feel distant and more disconnected?"

We're willing to bet that you'll feel more disconnected if there is any kind of competition between the two of you.

Of all the people we have ever worked with personally and those who have gone through our "Should You Stay
or Should You Go?"
program for deciding whether to stay in or leave a relationship.

Not one of these people has ever said to us...

"I feel like we're really on the same team here--we're splitting up!"

It just doesn't happen.

Here's the Susie and Otto rule for this:

In order to "stay in love," make sure that you and your partner or spouse ALWAYS play on the same team.

The potential challenges, upsets and heartbreak are just too great if you don't.

Secret # 3

Couples who "fall in love" AND "Stay in Love" remind themselves and each other regularly about what they like, love and appreciate about each other.

Just last night, Susie asked Otto...

"What do you most appreciate about me?"

To many people, it may seem kind of silly for a couple who's been together as long as we've been together to be telling each other what we appreciate about each other all the time.

But it works--

Try this with your partner every so often and notice the difference it makes in your relationship.

Simply say to your partner:

"Something I really appreciate about you is____________"

And then fill in the blank with what you like, love or appreciate about him or her.

This alone can sometimes work miracles in a relationship or marriage.

As you may know, we just came out with a brand new program specifically for women who want to know whether their man is lying to them or cheating.

While we were putting together this program, we couldn't help but think about how much less frequently this would occur in relationships if both men and women appreciated each other more.

Please know that we're not naive enough to think that in all cases simply "appreciating each other more" will solve all your relationship ills.

We're not suggesting that at all.

What we are saying is that it's been our experience that when you tell your partner, spouse or lover how much you like, love and appreciate him or her in specific ways on a regular basis, --your relationship really sings.


Thanks for this post. I agree that language is a very important part of any relationship. However, because we are human, it is somewhat unrealistic for us to aspire to always use positive and encouraging language. We are tired at times, we are self-centered by nature, and we are just not always positive people.

The question is: are we honest enough with ourselves to admit when we've slipped? And furthermore, are we willing to modify our behavior/language once we've made this admission?

Yes--good point. We are all human and the more we can practice using words that open rather than close the other person--as well as admit it when we slip up and don't--the better our relationships will be.

A thoughtful insight and ideas I will use on my blog. You've obviously spent some time on this.

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