For most people, the sad truth is that they DON"T believe more is possible and that's why they settle for mediocrity.

Today, we watched a great online video by one of our favorite teachers Tony Robbins about what keeps you from succeeding in what you want.

He said that success usually happens when people hit rock bottom and they say to themselves that they are sick of this--and then they start changing themselves.

They start doing the "rituals"--1 thing a day or 1 thing a week--to follow-through to get to their goal.

These rituals become "musts" and not "maybes."

More importantly, they changed the way they thought of their potential for success in their minds.

Okay, so let's translate this to your relationship.

If you have an "okay" or "not-too-bad" marriage or relationship, you probably haven't hit rock bottom and you may or may not be at the point where you're saying to yourself, "I'm sick of this!"

We're suggesting that even though you may not be at that point (and great if you aren't because it can be pretty traumatic if you are)--we invite you to consider making a shift in what you see your potential in your relationship to be.

Take action from the place inside you that you can see the potential for what you want--and it you don't know what that is, go search for it.

When we were first together, we didn't have a clue what we wanted for our relationship. We just knew that we wanted something deeper, more passionate, and more connected than we had in our previous relationships.

We had to see the potential for something greater.

Separately, before we got together, we read Gary Zukav's "Seat of the Soul," among other books that started us creating our vision for what is possible in relationships.

From that point, we continually expand this vision--and that's part of the magic that keeps us loving and growing together over the years.

So in this area of our lives, we've been able to do as Tony explained...

We saw and felt the potential of a great relationship, we took action toward it, we got results which re-enforced beliefs that it is possible.

Now, what we do every day is to be constantly looking for evidence of how great the other is while at the same time be looking outside ourselves for new models and ideas of how to expand our love and connection beyond the level it is now (which is pretty high.)

So what if you're in a situation like the woman who contacted us...

What if your partner doesn't express his emotions to your satisfaction or you can't talk to one another or the thrill is gone--and you don't want to leave?

What then?

Here are some ideas...

1. First off, commit to an expanded vision of what's possible for you in relationship.

Where do you find that vision if all you've seen so far is relationships that are just okay or even really bad?

Start reading books that will stimulate the potential for more inside you and maybe even inside your partner.

For instance, if you're interested in a deeper, closer, more passionate relationship, you might check out our "Red Hot Love Relationships" for some tasteful ideas about how to create deeper intimacy.

Don't be depressed that it isn't happening right now for you.

Just get that picture for what you want and start feeling even a glimmer inside you that it is possible.

2. Take action toward your goal

Actually do what Tony Robbins suggests about creating "rituals" every week or every day.

Ask yourself-- "What continual actions can take me toward what I want."

You might decide to practice appreciating your partner 3 times every day in a genuine way.

You might decide to have a date night every week and stick to it.

You might start working through a communication course that will help you get closer and understand each other better.

If you start working on a course like our "Red Hot Love Relationships" or our communication
course "Stop Talking on Eggshells" at
--who knows, your partner might surprise you and decide to go through it with you.

3. Watch for results.

Be on the look out for results that you can point to--no matter how small--that show that you are moving toward your goal.

Many of us have the unfortunate habit of looking at the glass half empty and not half full. In other words, we see and focus on what's wrong rather than notice what's going right.

If you want more of what's going right, start acknowledging that something IS going right!

4. As you move along in this process, notice how your beliefs change for what's possible.

It's a cycle that can either propel you toward what you want or keep you mired in what you don't want.

The choice is really yours.

We invite you this week to expand what you think your potential is for your life and for your relationships.

We invite you to expand your ideas of having greater love in your life.