Overcome Jealousy: What the McNair Tragedy can Teach Us
When it comes to jealousy...
This is the worst thing that could possibly happen!
When stress, run-away thoughts of jealousy and feelings that your world is crumbling around you merge-- the worst can happen...
And for one couple this week, jealousy did cause the worst to happen and it played itself out on the national and network news outlets.
So what is it we're talking about here that was such a big tragedy?
We're talking about the death of retired NFL star quarterback Steve McNair.
According to an Associated Press report and the police, McNair was shot and killed by "a 20 year-old girlfriend distraught about mounting financial problems AND her belief that he was seeing someone else."
Although this is an extreme case of jealousy in action, we bring this up because there are some lessons to be learned from it.
Even though your jealousy and mistrust issues will hopefully not result in this type of tragedy, it could be time for you to do something about your situation--no matter how weak your symptoms appear to be.
If the woman who allegedly killed McNair had gotten help for her anger and jealous-- and learned how to deal with her financial problems, both of them would perhaps still be alive.
What pain this woman must have been in to do this extreme act and what pain McNair's and this woman's family must be in now!
All of it didn't have to happen.
Jealousy and this woman's other problems were so big in her mind that (according to police reports) they caused her to take the life of Mr. McNair and then herself.
This is tragic and here's what we'll say to you if jealousy or lack of trust is an issue for you in your life...
No matter how severe your jealousy is, here are some ways you can begin to tackle it...
Here's what we'll suggest...
1. Take a good look at your situation. Write it on paper. For now, leave out your emotion and just write the facts of what's happening right now.
Be sure you separate out fact from fiction.
Really take a look at what you are making up and the facts of your situation.
Getting a clear idea of your problem will help you to know what information you'll need to help you move out of it toward what you want.
If you've been cheated on before--either by your current partner or by someone in a past relationship--or you may be getting clear messages that it might be happening right now, check this out...
"What to do about your jealousy if you've been cheated on before"
2. Learn some ways to deal with your stress and thoughts that get out of control.
There are many methods and resources available to help you deal with stress--
The trick is to practice them when your stress comes up.
We created a technique we call the "3 minute Jealous Thought Stopper" that you can start practicing when your
jealous thoughts cloud your reasoning powers and cause you to say and do things that you wouldn't normally do.
It's available free about a quarter of the way down on that web page.
3. Reach out and ask for help and support in making the changes that you know you need to make.
If you are feeling out of control at times with your jealousy or mistrust, ask for help and support in making changes.
If you truly want to change, there is usually someone in your life who will support you in those changes.
If no one in your life is open or able to support you, hire a coach or therapist--or just keep reading material that will
uplift you and give you the advice you
need.
That's one reason we continue to send you information about jealousy--to give you the impetus and the hope
that you can let go of jealous feelings and move on to create the life you want.
Our wish for you is that you take this opportunity to do whatever it takes to do that!
