1. When it's warm, people are wearing fewer
clothes and the clothes they are wearing is
more revealing.

If you're insecure about your appearance,
your weight, or your desirability factor,
your insecurity will more than likely
go off the charts when you see other
people who in your eyes have better bodies
or look more desirable than you.

2. Many people attend more social gatherings
during summer months--gatherings of all
types such as weddings, outdoor cookouts,
festivals, street fairs, art walks,
graduation parties and of course, reunions.

If you have feelings of jealousy, these
social gatherings can be miserable affairs
because of the fear (either imagined or
real) of your worst nightmares coming true.

You might fear the possibility of running
into your partner's ex or dread his or her
flirtatious actions at those gatherings.

Whatever the reason for your jealousy and
mistrust, you're probably on pins and needles
and can't wait for the social event to end
because of it.

3. Even though many people may have more
free time in the summer months, it may be
that there is less connection between couples
because of all the things that they think
have to be done.

Many people keep themselves busy throughout
the year--no matter what the season--but
summer can offer so many more opportunities
to "do" and places to go that there seems
to be little time to actually spend together
connecting with each other.

When this happens, jealousy and mistrust
can get much worse.

So what can you do about it?

Here are a few ideas that have worked for
us and for our coaching clients...

1. If you are insecure about your
desirability to your partner and possibly
your weight or appearance, decide today
to take one step toward what you want
instead of looking at others and putting
yourself down or even hating yourself.

First of all, your insecurity could
completely be your perception and not that
of your partner's.

Get clear about what's true. Is this how
your partner feels or is it completely
your poor perception of yourself?

Whichever is true, what is one thing you
can do to help yourself to feel better
and more self-assured?

*Is it to go to the gym a few times a
week?

*Is it to start loving yourself by
making better food choices?

*Is it to start walking every day?

*Is it to borrow a book or audios on
self-esteem from the library?

Decide what way you are going to start
loving yourself more and then commit
to doing it. It's not too late!

If your partner is insecure and nothing
you say or do changes that, encourage
him or her to get some help.

We know this is a touchy subject but
you might say something like this...

"I love you and I've noticed that you
put yourself down a lot before and after
we go to parties--and you end up not
trusting me. I want us to feel really
close again so I'm wondering if you're
open to getting some help--maybe a
book?

2. If social gatherings heat up your
jealousy and mistrust, talk it over
with your partner in such a way that
you are not pointing a finger at his
or her actions but rather from a more
positive approach.

Talk about each of your expectations
for the event before it happens and
then tell your partner one thing
you'd like that would help you to
feel better at the event.

You might ask to simply connect
briefly every now and then--with maybe
a short hug or even the two of you
making a connection with your eyes.

You have to figure out what would
support you and what you'd like from
your partner instead of what you
don't want--and then ask for it.

If you are the kind of person who finds it
difficult to talk to other people especially
around those "touchy" subjects that you
find difficult...

Then you'll find a lot of wonderful tools
for communicating with someone you care
about in "touchy" or difficult situations in
our program-- "Stop Talking On Eggshells"
available here

If your partner is jealous, talk it
over before you go out and find out
what would support him or her.

You might be amazed that if you make
some agreements ahead of time, how
your problems can disappear pretty
quickly.

3. Talk with your partner about how
the two of you can create time each
day to connect.

We've discovered that a lot of
"jealousies" are simply cries for more
time and attention from their partner.

If this is your issue--if this is
underneath your mistrust and jealous
thoughts, actions, and words, take
the time to find out what you want
and then talk about it with your
partner.

Make sure you are open to listening
what he or she wants.

We hope that these ideas have inspired
you to work on and overcome your
jealousy and trust issues this summer
season.

Know that it is possible to overcome
jealousy and build more trust no matter
what time of year it is.

If you want more tips and suggestions
for overcoming jealousy and building
trust, we recommend...

How To Build or Rebuild Trust in Any Relationship
Visit --> http://www.relationshiptrustturnaround.com

How To Overcome and Eliminate Jealousy From
Your Relationship and Your Life...
Visit --> http://www.NoMoreJealousy.com