Restart the Spark in 2009
A couple of days ago, a friend of wished us a happy new year by telling us that "everything's going to be fine in 2009."
While this is certainly our wish for you, we think that our lives and relationships can be even better than "fine" in the coming year and so can yours.
We all can restart the spark--the spark in our significant relationship; the spark in our everyday lives; the spark in other relationships that are important to us.
We can ALL create more happiness and joy in the coming year.
We think it all starts with putting the spark back in your relationships and lives.
So as you're reading this, your question might be ...
How do you put the spark back or even find it after it's been buried under fear, distance, apathy, tiredness or disconnection?
Here are some ways that you can begin starting right now to invite more spark into your life...
1. Decide where you want more spark and make sure that it's truly what you want. Make sure that you are willing to make a few changes in your life and do a few things differently.
In what area of your life or which relationship would you like to enliven and enrich?
2. Make a change in a belief that holds you back.
Your beliefs come from thoughts that you think over and over--which can certainly come from past experiences. Wherever these beliefs came from, they can be changed if they no longer are in your best interest--if they hold you back from having what you want.
A great example of this is this...
Old belief--"I'm not loved and supported in a way that I want."
New belief--"Support is there for me to do what I want if I'm open to it."
You can start changing that belief by noticing when this new belief is true. In this case, when you feel supported and loved.
What's one new belief you can begin to adopt that will bring you closer to what you want?
3. Make a change in an attitude that holds you back.
Your attitude toward life and your relationships certainly create more of the same.
The trick is to change your attitude without "blue-skying" it or telling yourself something that you can not believe.
Here's an example of changing your attitude and the way you think about your partner...
Old attitude--"My partner will never make changes in our relationship."
New attitude--"My partner is my friend and I can start treating him (or her) that way."
What new attitude can you begin to embody that will bring you closer to what you want?
4. Learn a new skill and practice it.
To make any change, especially if you want to bring more spark to your life, you usually need to learn something new and then practice it.
For Susie, it's a deeper learning of how to stay present, grounded and open no matter what is going on around her.
For you, it might be a new way to relate to your loved one or it might be learning how to change your thinking to be more positive.
What's one new skill you'd like to learn next year that would make your life better?
What we know is that we all have the opportunity to make 2009 the best year ever.
We encourage you to open yourself to this opportunity of more love, passion and zest for life than you ever thought possible.
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