Of course it's mostly women who are drawn to watching these movies and sometimes they can get their reluctant partners to watch too. And we watch these movies not only because they are entertaining but also we see something in the main chararters' relationship that we want. We see the spark of passion and connection between them that we want more of in our own relationships.

The two of us agree with the researchers that a lot of these films show how NOT to communicate instead of how to communicate. The main characters often make some pretty big relationship mistakes but still come out happy, close and connected. We agree that this isn't real life and that you certainly have to learn to communicate because there's no room for expecting the other person to be psychic and anticipate our every need.

But what we can say about these romantic movies is this...

They give you a glimpse of what's possible but maybe not a realistic view of how to get there.

If you've never felt that feeling, these movies give you a way to vicariously experience what that might feel like.

If you're single and looking for a partner, we suggest that you feel the experience and have fun in it but don't shut yourself off from ever experiencing it with thoughts like "I can never have that" or "That's only in the movies."

Actually see yourself in this kind of relationship.

If you're in a committed relationship or marriage right and maybe you had this special feeling of connection and passion at one point but you don't so much now--turn your attention toward loving your partner in a new way.

Start learning some new ways to clear up the problems or even the boredom or indifference that stand in your way to passion and connection.

Don't shut down what you want and think that you can't have it.

Believe us when we tell you that love and passion can last and it can grow greater every day.