Brett and Jan have been married for about two decades now and have four very active teenagers still living at home. It seems that at any one time of the evening and weekend, someone has a game, performance or a social function to attend. Their home is usually a flurry of comings and goings. Dinner together with the entire family is a rarity and alone time for Brett and Jan an even rarer occurrence.

Though both are happy spending time with and supporting their busy children, Brett and Jan long for those sporadic occasions when they can re-connect over coffee or, even better, make love leisurely without worries about interruptions. With their current lifestyle it seems too easy to lose track of one another and the passion they enjoy sharing in their relationship.

Kissing can be a quick, easy way to connect...

You don't have to plan out an elaborate date together to touch in with your love. Of course, elaborate date nights
are fun and effective ways to connect, but don't wait until the next opportunity for one of those. Instead, surprise
your partner with an unexpected kiss! When he or she arrives home after you two have been apart, greet your love with a deep, heart-felt kiss. As you embrace and kiss, glory in the love you share and allow it to comethrough in those seconds your lips are touching.

Recently, Brett paused on his way out the door to take their son to band practice to share a longer than usually held kiss with Jan. This took just a few moments and reminded them both of the excitement that's still there after all of these years. Perhaps later that evening they will expand upon those feelings.

Kissing can communicate many things...

When you kiss your mate, it doesn't always have to indicate that you want to make love. You can kiss your partner in a way that simply says "I care about you and am here for you." A quick kiss on the back of the neck can express a fun and playful mood. And, of course, you can still knock his or her socks off with a sultry smooch that lets your love know you're in the mood for more intimacy now, or later when you are alone.

When Brett came home after a tough day at the office, Jan sensed that there was nothing she could say that would help him. She did want to show her care and concern, however, so Jan put her arms around Brett and softly kissed his forehead and cheeks. The tenderness in her kisses eased some of the tension for Brett and allowed the two of them to connect without words.

Kissing can be adventurous and passionate...

Most people associate kissing with passion but, at a certain point, this form of physical connecting can become routine and usual. A quick peck on the lips is the taken-for-granted greeting and parting Brett and Jan have always shared. Often each are so preoccupied that they kiss unconsciously thereby missing a chance to connect.

When you choose to kiss with your attention-- even for just a few seconds-- fully in the moment and on your love, you can enhance the experience. WOW! Your fully present kiss can be infused with the deeply-felt emotions you feel. You can even mix things up by kissing your partner in ways and in places you've never tried before. See how creatively you can kiss and enjoy the experimenting.

Whatever kind of kiss you choose to share with your mate, be sure you are present and focused on the love you are sharing. Have fun with kissing and practice often!