Infidelity and Forgiveness: 5 ways to get back on track
If you haven't seen the film "Sex and the City," do it right now! We know that it didn't get great reviews and that it's a "Chick Flick" but if you want a good look at relationships, watch it.
We don't want to spoil the story for you but one of the topics is infidelity and whether to forgive or not after it happens.
We certainly understand that it's not too easy to forgive after infidelity and we would say that there are some things to consider if this has happened to you...
1. Is your partner continuing the relationship? If yes, and he or she doesn't want to stop, then take some time and discover what you want. Do you want to stay in a relationship where you are second class and not honored? If no, then consider looking at what you both want.
2. What do you both want in this relationship and do you both want to stay in the relationship? What are you both wanting and are you both willing to move toward it together?
3. What would it look like for your partner to be trustable again? List some tangible things that being trustable would mean.
4. If you both decide that this relationship is what you want and your partner is doing things to prove he or she is trustable, make the agreement that you will leave the past behind and start over--without dragging infidelity into it. What are you both willing to do to create more passion, love and connection between the two of you?
5. Keep doing the little things that create connection in every moment. Don't stop with a renewal but keep doing these little things that show you care in each and every day.
When there's been infidelity, it's a wake up call for both people to consider what it is that they want and if they want to be together. And if they do, then they need to agree how they are going to move forward to creating trust and connection--walking into a future together.
