Relationship Advice for After You Meet Your Soul Mate
This week, someone asked Susie such an interesting relationship question that we thought we'd share our thoughts about the topic with you.
This question and our answer are important to anyone who wants more love and connection in their relationships and life.
So what is the question we're talking about?
Susie and her sister were having a "girls getaway," visiting their two cousins who live in Richmond, Virginia, which is about an 7 hour drive from where we live in Ohio.
The four of them grew up together and have been very close friends since. They always have such a good time at these "reunions" and one of the fun things the four of them did in the evenings during this reunion was watch romantic comedy movies on DVD and laugh together.
You know the way romantic comedies go... there are always bizarre twists and turns on the way to getting the guy or girl of your dreams and the movies that the four of them watched were no different.
In fact, in two of these movies, the couples met and fell "in love" within a week.
As the four of them talked about the movies later, Susie's sister asked if it was really possible to fall in that kind of love in a week. Susie thought that was an interesting question because that's exactly what happened to the two of us.
We've been together for many years now, but we were only acquaintances before going on our "first date."
As strange as it sounds and just like in those romantic comedies, our connection was so strong and so intense on that "first date" that we were together as a couple from then on.
Whether you're in a relationship now and want more spark, connection and love or you're not in a relationship and want to be...
Here's the relationship lesson we'd like to share with you in all this...
While we love a good movie about love and romance, the one thing that's never told is what you should do next after this initial attraction to keep the spark alive in your relationship.
These movies focus on the fun and excitement of the meeting, the attraction and the initial romance.
Yes, the feeling that you've found the true soul mate that you've wanted in your life can be incredible because we know from our own experience.
But why did this "big love" happen to us?
Was it a fluke?
Was is our destiny?
A divine plan?
Were we just soul mates destined to find each other?
Was it karma?
Can it happen to anyone?
These are all legitimate questions...
We believe that the reasons that we have this "big love" and incredible connection are not just answering "yes" to any of those questions.
As good as a new passionate, romantic relationship feels, in our opinion, it's nothing compared to what is yet to come if you just learn how to keep your love alive with your partner.
We've discovered that anyone can have and keep more love, more passion, more connection, more trust, better communication and deeper relationships.
As we look at our relationship and the lives of our coaching clients that we've helped to create close, connected relationships, one thing is clear...
The real magic in relationships happens after the initial attraction that creates lasting love and an incredible connection over the long term.
Whether you are currently in a committed relationship or you are opening yourself to attracting a new partner
into your life, here are a few things that we did and you can too...
1. Choose to look at your beloved with fresh eyes and begin each day with gratitude. That means letting go
of old grievances after they've been resolved and focusing on appreciating what you love about each other instead of what's "wrong."
2. Do something every day to keep your connection strong. It can just take a few minutes of stopping your busy life to turn and look into the eyes of your partner. Don't let a day go by without renewing your connection.
3. Keep a sense of humor. You will make "mistakes" and your partner will too. While it's healthy to know
what you want and don't want in a relationship, be kind to yourself and your partner when things don't go too well.
4. Keep passion alive. So many couples allow the passion that was once there between them to die. Keep it alive and growing.
Whether you are currently with a partner or are available for a new relationship, begin creating your own romantic comedy--with the idea that there is no "ending" but simply a continuation of passion, love and connection between the two of you.
Always be asking yourselves and each other "how can I / we open to more in this relationship and with you?"
You can always open more and you can always love more. Every moment is a new opportunity to create and enjoy.
Very often we just have to let go of our preconceived blocks and notions about what is or isn't possible.
Other times it's a bit more complicated than just letting go of preconceived notions and ideas but if your intention is to open instead of close and love instead withhold then you're certainly on the right track.
