Letting Go and Moving On from a Breakup, a Job or Anything Else
Many of us are starting new ventures and leaving people, jobs or old ways of being for more of what we want in our lives.
The two of us are in the process of doing some remodeling to get our 130 year old house ready to sell so that we can relocate in a larger city about an hour away. With this preparation for our move, we're dealing with issues from our past, as well as some fears.
We know that this process of letting go of the past and moving into a more empowering future--whether it is about a relationship, job or location--is a normal one and one that all of us face from time to time.
So how do you move through this process of letting go of the past and moving on in an empowering way?
Leave it to a bat to re-teach us some valuable lessons about letting go and moving on in life.
Because we live in an older home in the woods, an occasional bat finds its way inside a few times each year. As you can guess, it's always an unnerving experience when a bat flies through the living room.
We've adopted a gentle approach to the bats and simply open the door and after a few minutes of circling and
swooping, the bat leaves.
This time it was a different experience.
We had a bat who wouldn't leave. It circled for a few minutes for three nights and then would disappear. Finally last night we were determined that it was time for it to leave.
After about two hours of opening the door when it flew into the living room and having it swoop to another part of the house, we decided that something was keeping it from finding the door.
As soon as Otto turned off the television and moved a chair that might have been an obstacle to the door, the bat circled into the room and flew out.
What a relief and also what a learning experience!
The bat couldn't move on to what it wanted until the noise was silenced and the obstacle was moved.
So the question is...
What inner or out noise do you need to silence and what obstacle do you need to move in order to move
toward what you want?
For Susie, it's silencing the inner "noise" of fear and self doubt about leaving a place that she's lived for almost
40 years. The obstacles that she needs to move are the attachments to the past that hold her to the house
and its surrounding.
Looking toward and focusing on what you want is one of the best ways we know to empower yourself in this
kind of process.
For you, it may be something very different but for all of us, there are always ways that we can silence our
critical self-talk or negative stories in our minds and move obstacles that are in our way of having what
we want.
We invite you to consider what it is that you want to move on to in your life and look at what prevents you from moving toward having it.
