Is the Jealousy of Lisa Nowak, a NASA Astronaut, Unusual?
The recent conduct of Lisa Marie Nowak, a NASA astronaut,has been splashed over the internet, print, television, radio--and just about any other means of communication for a couple of reasons--
1. It's pretty unusual for a NASA astronaut to be caught up in potential charges that Lisa might be facing
2. The story and her conduct in itself are very bizarre
Because we have written a very successful course on eliminating jealousy,a free mini-course that many people find of value, as well as helping many coaching clients with jealousy problems, we have a lot of interaction with people who are jealous.
Although we do not claim that the majority of people go as far as Lisa Nowak did, driven by their jealous behavior, we do say that jealousy can take over one's mind and body to the extent that the person feels like they are not in control of themselves and they end up doing and saying things that they deeply regret later.
If jealousy is a problem in your life, here are some suggestions...
What's the solution? Believe it or not, there are some ways to heal jealousy if you are willing to make some changes in your life. While we have no idea if Lisa Nowak has the desire to heal her jealousy, we do know that it is possible for those who truly want to live a life free of this kind of drama.
Here are a few suggestions for healing jealousy...
1. Jealous feelings result from real or imagined fears that the relationship will be taken away. The first thing is to determine whether the fears result from real or imagined events.
2. When triggered by jealousy, breathe and keep focused on what's truly happening in situations. Don't listen to the stories that are made up in your mind and absolutely don't act from those stories in a way that is harmful to anyone. When people react from their jealousy and harm someone else--whether it's the supposed cheater or the person taking their partner away from them--they only hurt themselves as has been demonstrated by the NASA astronaut.
3. Create a plan for healing jealousy. If there's truth to your suspicions, deal with that truth in a straightforward way. If there's no truth and nothing currently "causing" jealous behavior, decide to heal it and take steps to change. Jealousy can be healed. It just takes courage, commitment and learning some new skills.
If jealousy is a problem for you right now, take a step toward healing and creating the life and relationship that you've always wanted. We suggest that you begin with our free course.
