How Men Screw Up Romance
The other day we were sent a link to a very short video called "How Men Screw Up Romance." In this short video, a beautiful woman walks seductively to a spa-type bathtub and eases herself into the water. As she's enjoying herself in the peace and quiet, a man jumps into the bath, splashing water everywhere, holding his beer. In the next shot, he looks bewildered.
The short film is funny but it's also sad. It's sad because if men just paid attention to what women really want, they could have what they want.
We'll explain...
In the March 2007 issue of Men's Health magazine, the results of a survey of 1000 women says it all. The magazine asked the women to rate nonsexual foreplay tactics that would put her in the "mood."
What came up highest in this survey were these simple things...
--We laugh together, watching a tv show or movie
--He cooks dinner and cleans up
--He surprises me with a sentimental gift
--He unexpectedly draws me a bath
Being romantic doesn't have to be something difficult or costly. For a man to be considered "romantic," it really means tuning in to his partner and listening to what she would enjoy.
While it's certainly true that all women do not enjoy or consider the the same things as "romantic," all a man really has to do is pay attention to what she wants. It might be some peace and quiet time away from the kids while you take over. It might be cleaning up your area without her asking. It might be bringing her a cup of tea or glass of wine after a hard day at work. It might be offering to give her a foot massage.
What we're saying is that this "romance" thing is often harder than it has to be. When you look at her with love, without expectation, it can be the most romantic thing you can do.
So if you want to be more romantic, simplify it and take the stress out of providing her with an expensive dinner or flowers (not that that isn't good too). Try the small things and see what happens.
