It's that your relationship or marriage will be pretty much the same as it was in the previous year unless you change.

Just yesterday, Otto was talking with a potential coaching client by phone and she was asking how she could get her partner to open up to her more and how she could rebuild their relationship.

It was clear from the conversation that she was really wanting the relationship to get back to a place where she and her partner could feel closer and more connected.

She told Otto that they once had a great relationship but work, the amount of time she spent with friends and other factors has created distance between the two of them. She felt like everything she was doing to rebuild their relationship was creating the opposite of what she wanted and seemed to be pushing him further away.

As Otto listened to her, it became clear to him that this woman was spending a great deal of time effort and energy trying to "fix" it for her partner.

She felt that if she couldn't get him to open up to her and "work on their relationship," their 8 year marriage would probably end.

There's much more to this situation than we can go into in this brief newsletter article-- but one thing that's for sure was that she needed a different strategy if she was to rebuild her relationship with her mate.

One of the things that Otto told her was that instead of trying to "fix" her husband, what she should probably commit to was becoming THE person who would attract the kind of relationship she wanted once again with her husband.

What we have discovered after working with hundreds and hundreds of individuals and couples in our relationship coaching practice is that you certainly can't make anyone open their heart to you and magically fall in love with you all over again no matter how much you try.

What you CAN do is spend time working on yourself and become so incredible that your partner (or potential partner if you're not with someone) will notice.

Here are some tips for creating the best relationship or marriage possible in 2007...

1) Become the kind of person who could attract the love, passion and connection you want.

Please know that we're not just talking about this in the context of a *new* partner. We believe that we're constantly renewing and regenerating our relationship into something new (and hopefully better) all the time.

2) Approach Your relationship or marriage from a place of wonder and excitement.

Many people get into a relationship and before long stop doing the things that made the relationship great in the first place. Never stop doing what made you fall in love. If you've stopped, start again.

3) If you want a truly wonderful relationship, one of the keys is to look at and treat your partner or spouse as your "beloved" or "someone special."

In our own lives, one of the primary reasons our relationship continues to grow and get better all the time is because we treat each other "special" as much as possible.

Focus on treating the people you care about in your life as special and we think you'll be amazed at the transformation that will happen right before your eyes.

As we begin this new year, we know that we (or anyone) can't predict how your relationships or marriage will turn out.

What we can tell you is this...

The quality of your relationships will be determined by factors such as your intentions, your attitudes, your beliefs, your relationship rules and the actions you take to create what you want.

Please know that whatever you focus on in your relationships and your life in the new year is going to expand.

If you spend your time, effort and energy focusing on love, passion and connection, you'll create more of that. If you spend your time, effort and energy focusing on the things you don't want in your relationships and life, you'll attract more of that.

Nothing happens by accident, especially creating a great relationship.

Creating an outstanding relationship or marriage simply requires you to do things that create more love, and connection and not stop doing them no matter what.