In our opinion, one of the most important things that Keith had to say in the interview was this when he was asked if he had fears that maybe the right one wouldn't come along...
"I thought that the right one would come along but I knew that it would take me becoming the right one first."

He went on to say that "It's easy for us to think that someone's going to come along and fix everything and make you a better person. But you've got to bring something to the table, so I had a lot of work to do on myself. And still do. But I believe that I've found the right person and that we can go the distance together."

While we don't think that everyone has to wait until age 38 to get married or there is any age more appropriate than others to take that big step--we do think that it's wise to have a good idea of who you are and what you want in life before making that commitment.

Do you have to be "perfect" in having yourself all together before you marry? We don't think there is any such thing as perfection. There's always room for growth. What we do believe is that it's important to know yourself enough to know what you want in life, have the attitude of growing constantly, and choose someone who you can grow with--someone you can "go the distance together" as Keith said.

Too often, people choose their partners unconsciously and they "fall" into their relationships and marriage as if by default. We're advocating that before you commit to someone in a marriage situation, you take some time and look at yourself and your goals, values and aspirations--as well as your partner's. When you do, you get a better idea of where the two of you might go together as a couple and how you might grow together.

Growing together is one of the biggest ways to keep a marriage alive, passionate and full of love over the long haul. So often, married couples or couples who have been together for many years find themselves growing in different directions and the glue that held them together just seems to dry up. They might stay together for the kids or for other reasons but the passion just seems to disappear.

We know that it doesn't have to be that way. If you commit to growing together and do the things that will keep you doing that, you can keep the passion and love alive between the two of you.

One of the other secrets to keeping a relationship alive is what Keith said about continuously working on himself. When each person in the relationship brings the attitude that personal growth and change is good, as well as a shared vision for what they want their relationship to be, there is a far greater chance that the relationship will last for the long haul.