The lesson from our coaching client and his vacation is that it is our job is to take those good feelings and relaxed frame of mind and heart into every aspect of our lives and live that way as much of the time as possible AFTER vacation and not just while on vacation.

When we do this, we'll literally be able to attract more of what we want and less of what we don't want into our relationships and lives-- but this isn't always easy.

If you have had similar feelings of getting a glimpse of how your life and relationships can be different and better but find that you've slipped back into the patterns of your past that have kept you stuck--here are some suggestions that may be helpful if you want to break out.

1. Acknowledge what it is that you want. Our client had a glimpse of how it felt to really and truly relax trying to control everyone and every thing and he liked it. Having a vision of "this is the feeling that I want" is a first step to having more of it.

2. Create the possibility within yourself that you can move toward having more of what you want. When you find that you are telling yourself that whatever it is that you want isn't possible, change your thoughts.

One way we like to do that is by revisiting in our minds places where we have felt happy, joyful or really relaxed. It might be floating in the ocean, cruising on a catamaran or enjoying a good baseball game. When we re-create good feelings within ourselves, even from the memory of a past experience, we find that we feel more positive in the present moment and are more open to possibilities and more love.

3. Take one step toward moving from your habits and patterns that keep you in whatever you don't want. Our client decided to be more open to collaborating with a colleague at work. He saw how he tends to try to control every situation with this colleague (and many others) and that attempt at control keeps him very anxious at his work, as well as at home.

By deciding to open to changing his approach in his mind from control to collaboration--starting with his colleague--our client has begun to ease the stress in his life and move toward the feelings that he had when he was on vacation in Ireland.

Is it possible to carry relaxed, joyful, loving feelings that we've felt at certain times into our daily lives?

Yes, it most definitely is possible.

Summer is a time when many of us go through our lives a little slower and take time to relax a little more. A vacation is usually a great way to break out of your normal routine, enjoy some different experiences and even relax. We might even catch a glimpse of how we'd like to be more in our lives.

We've found that when we allow ourselves to relax and not allow the pressures of our normal routine to build walls between us, we are closer, kinder and more open toward each other and other people.

What we've found is that it's normal for upsets or periods of stress to come and go in our lives. What also can be "normal" is for us all to come back to feelings of peace, relaxation, love, joy or whatever else it is that we want
to experience.