Our answer is an unequivocal YES--with this caveat...

Passion, love and connection are certainly possible in one relationship but there can be and usually is an ebb and flow to it.

When the two of us lose passion for each other or our connection (love seems to always be there between us), we are committed to getting back what seems to have faded as soon as possible.

From the beginning of our relationship, we committed to each other that our relationship would be made up of all three--love, passion and connection, as well as deep friendship. We didn't experience this in our previous relationships and we decided that the pain of not having all three was greater than what it takes to have all three.

This commitment is so strong between us that we do whatever we need to do to move out of disconnection to connection --which re-ignites our passion.

So if it's possible to have it all, how do you do it?

Here are some of our ideas and what works in our lives...

1. Believe that you can have all three in one relationship. Most of us have not seen this in relationships, especially in our parents' relationship. We might have gotten the idea or even been told that you have to "settle" for one or the other.

Now, we certainly don't think anything's wrong with a relationship that is based on friendship and connection, with no passion--if that's what both people want. The problem comes in when one person feels an emptiness and wants more.

So belief that it is possible and that you can have it is where you start. When you find that you are talking to yourself in a negative way about the possibility, change your thoughts to what's really possible for you.

2. If both of you are open to a discussion about what each of you wants in the relationship, that's a good, honest place to start. Decide what you are both committed to having and what you're going to do to move toward having it.

If you need better communication between the two of you, learn some tips and practice them. We've written a lot about communication on our web sites. The trick is to practice what will bring you closer to what you want.

If you aren't currently in a relationship, decide what you are committed to having for your experience in your next relationship and then watch for positive signs in a new partner. If you are committed to having what you want, you will be able to spot what you don't want pretty quickly and then break old patterns that no longer serve you.

3. If you are currently in a relationship and one of these elements is missing or you just want more, begin by acting from that place within yourself. If you want more passion, figure out what passion means to you (and hopefully your partner) and then do more of it. Passion means different things to different people so be clear about what it means to you.

The same thing goes for connection and love. What do connection and love mean to you and how can you connect more with the people in your life?

If you're not currently in a relationship, bring more of what you are wanting into your life. Find something to be passionate about and find ways to connect with and love others more.

Know that life is full of choices. Just make sure that you are living or are moving toward living yours.