Can you Really Find Your Soul Mate?
When the topic of soul mates comes up, people are always wanting to know if they really exist and if they will ever find theirs! There are plenty of blogs about finding your soul mate and lots of mystique about the topic.
Although we agree that finding your soul mate can be a wonderful gift and that they really do exist, we have a little different idea of what soul mates are.
The romantic belief about soul mates purported by movies and romance novels says that there is one soul mate for you and if you miss that one opportunity to be together, you will have to "settle" for a life of dissatisfaction when it comes to having an intimate relationship.
Many people who want to find a soul mate have gone through several relationship breakups and feel they are "unlucky" at love. They feel they will never find that perfect someone who they want to spend the rest of their life with.
Although we have a somewhat different soul mate definition than what is commonly held, we absolutely believe that if you want a "soul mate" relationship, it is there for you to have.
We believe that a soul mate relationship can be one filled with passion, excitement, an incredible connection and all those things you imagine it to be. We recognize that those relationships do exist and we feel that it is possible to "find" that special person if that's your intention and path this time around.
The two of us had an immediate "soul mate" connection after we had left our previous marriages and have been together ever since, so we know that it is possible.
But that's not all there is.
We believe that soul mate relationships can take many different forms. They can be intimate relationships or they can be between friends, co-workers, family or people on the street. We believe that the purpose of all relationships, and especially soul mate relationships, is that we come together for personal and spiritual growth.
These soul mates can be the people we really seem to get along with or they can be people who really irritate us--and we can learn from all of them.
So if anyone can be a soul mate, can you attract a soul mate who you'd like to be with to you? Yes--but we also encourage you to think about the people who are already in your life as people to learn from--so that you can attract the person to you who you want to be with.
Sound confusing?
We believe that we are in every relationship to learn, to heal and to grow. Believe it or not, these souls come into relationships with you and even if it's uncomfortable, you can learn from them. If you limit your definition of a soul mate relationship to only the type you see in romance novels, you may be very disappointed.
We suggest that if you want to attract a close, connected relationship to you, that you begin learning how to be that kind of person--and that starts with learning from the people who are already in your life.
In order to learn from the people in your life, ask yourself these questions...
--What have I learned about myself as a result of being in a relationship with this person?
--How did this relationship help me to move forward to heal, learn and grow?
--What new beliefs did I take on or let go of as a result of being in this particular relationship?
Does all of this have anything to do with finding a soul mate who you want to be with?
If you begin to shift your viewpoint about what a soul mate is, new possibilities will begin to emerge and you will see your relationships for what they give to you.
You can start to become grateful for the people who are currently in your life and that gratefulness will begin to draw you more toward the relationship that you truly want.
