Here's what our visitor asked:

"My husband and I work together and we really fall into the pattern of pushing each others buttons. Even during our non working time, one of us will say something about how we didn't like the way a situation was handled. The ability to turn off business mode and get back into relationship mode is really tough.

Although it's important to discuss business matters on how we run our kids rug site, we don't take the time to block out space to do so. It ends up becoming an argument and getting in the way of our outside business life."

This is such a common question among couples who work together!

Here are some tips that we've discovered along the way that we'll pass on to you:

1. Learn to honor your differences and take the judgement out of your thoughts and your speech. This is probably the biggest thing we've had to learn in working together. Even though we love each other more than we have loved anyone, there are those thoughts of "why can't you do things the way I do them or want them to be done?"

Whenever these thoughts come up, ask yourself "what can I learn from him/her in this situation?" and open your heart to perhaps seeing another way to do something. Instead of instantly reacting from old patterns, allow yourself to just listen to the other's thoughts and ideas without shooting them down. Find some truth of merit in what your partner has said. Bypassing your old ways of doing things can be tough but it can also help you grow your business and your relationship at the same time.

2. Separate your two worlds--especially if you work out of your home. We have a rule that we don't allow business discussions to happen in our bedroom. Our bedroom is a sacred place for sleeping and love-making and if one of us launches into a business discussion there, the other person will usually bring us back to focusing on our connection and our love. If possible, have set business hours. Like most couples who work out of their home, we try to do that but sometimes we work much later than our stated hours. We do have a set time each morning and each evening to connect as a couple that has nothing to do with our business and we suggest that you create time in our day to do the same.

3. Take the time to resolve differences. The person who made the comment to our article knew that she and her husband needed to block out time and space to solve problems but they didn't seem to do it. Our advice is to make a commitment to each other that nothing is more important than to resolve differences and regain your connection. That is the commitment we have made to each other and if we don't honor it, we don't do well in our business. If we have unresolved feelings and resentments between the two of us, our business slows down and sometimes stops. Other couples may not be so fortunate to have such a mirror that forces them to take action to regain their connection--but if they truly look at themselves and their business, they probably do.

4. Take the time and space to rekindle your passion for each other and your relationship outside of the business. This is the pit that so many couples who work together find themselves falling into--they many be good, even great business partners but the spark between them dies a slow death and they find that they are no longer attracted to one another in that way. Passion certainly doesn't have to die if you are business partners although you have to decide that it is important and make it a priority in your relationship.

Couples can work together and also have a great intimate relationship but it takes commitment, choice, balance and of course a lot of love to do it.

If you are working with your intimate partner and have suggestions, please add them to the comments of this article.