What's Your Relationship Manifesto?
While we were browsing the internet, we ran into the Valley Jew and to our delight, the author quoted from our "Relationship Manifesto." He, of course, had his own "Typical Valley Jew Relationship Manifesto" which included--"3. We will complain about things our older relatives do and then do them ourselves. “ And you should hear her complain about Costco's lasagna!”
We loved what they had to say because isn't it so true that we all either silently or not-so-silently complain about things that other people in our lives do and then we turn around and do them ourselves! The sad thing is that we usually aren't aware that we're even doing them and we wonder why our lives and relationships don't seem to be working the way we want them to work.
What we do is continue to manifest the same kinds of results in our lives until we realize that we need to look within ourselves for the answers to our happiness instead of pointing our fingers outward at others and focusing on what they are doing wrong.
We'll explain with a story from our lives...
For a long time, Otto complained about how his father was when Otto was growing up. His father worked several jobs to support the family and he didn't have much patience for the adverturesome young boy he was trying to raise. Otto experienced his dad's anger more than once and silently held it against him for many years, although
his dad had mellowed with years.
Fast forward many years to Otto being the dad of a son who often tries his patience. Otto found himself reacting to his son in many of the same ways that his father had reacted to him--and that he had hated.
The difference was that Otto wanted to manifest something different for his life and his relationship with his son so he began to look at where his anger was coming from and to heal his past. He began to understand his father and have more compassion for him and in the process, had more compassion for his son.
Now, Otto has a lot more patience with his son and he doesn't seem to experience the angry episodes that he used to experience.
Through looking at what he had been complaining about his son and turning it to looking within himself, he's manifesting a different future for he and his son.
We love "Loving What is" by Byron Katie
We encourage you to take the Typical Valley Jew Relationship Manifesto and turn it around so that you can begin to create your own Relationship Manifesto and the life and relationships that you really want.
