Success--Raise Your Hand if You Want More!
If you were to go to any street corner or shopping mall and take a poll, asking people what it means to be successful and if they feel they are, you would get as many answers as the number of people you asked.
Success means something different to everyone and our question to you is this--Is there an area of your life in which you'd like to be more successful and what might that mean?
Because we're Relationship coaches, we of course focus on helping people be more successful in their relationships. In our opinion, everything is about our relationship with ourselves, some "thing," some issue, some group or some person.
With this in mind, what are some ways to be more successful in any part of your life?
Here are some of our ideas and you are welcome to add your own by making a comment at the bottom of this article:
1. Determine what being successful means to you. Is it having a lot of money? Is it raising healthy, happy children? Is it being of service to those who are less fortunate? Is it being a good person? Is it having a good job doing meaningful work? Is it having a healthy body? How would you characterize success? Is it a combination of several of these ideas?
2. In what area of your life would you like to have more success? Success comes easier in some areas of our lives than others. Some of us have great intimate relationships and not the financial success that we would like. Others of us have great success in our work but not in our relationships. How would you truly like to be more successful? Not what someone else tells you or has told you, but what you feel inside yourself.
3. Determine what is getting in your way of having the success that you want in that area of your life. Any belief and any obstacle can be removed or possibly looked at in a different way. Consider the ant--We watched ants on a hot summer's day with our grandsons. We saw them going about their business in a very determined way and if something got in their way, they just walked around it, through it or under it. They simply found another way to get to where they wanted to go.
One of the keys to having what you want, in our opinion, is to identify the beliefs that are holding you back and shifting into a mindset of possibilities. Just like the ant--there's always a way and it might not be as direct or as quick as we think it should be.
4. Learn to be happy right where you are. If you don't learn this, how will you ever be happy when you get "there" or be successful, whatever that means to you? Because we're human, there will always be something more--success will mean something else when we achieve what we set out to do. If we don't learn to appreciate where we are right now, while looking forward to what is possible, we will be dwelling on what we don't want and that kind of thinking certainly can keep us stuck where we don't want to be. Learning to be happy right where you are while planning and envisioning for what you want more of in your life can be tricky. We've found that this idea is one of the major tools to making changes for the better in your life and creating success.
We'll add another point from one of our favorite success and motivation teachers, Jim Rohn:
"And here's the last one; learning to solve problems. Business problems, family problems, financial problems, emotional problems, etc. -- challenges for us all. Here's the best way to treat a problem: As an opportunity to grow. Change if you have to, modify if you must, discard an old philosophy that wasn't working well for a new one. The best phrase my mentor ever gave me was when he said, "Mr. Rohn if you will change, everything will change for you." Wow, I took that to heart, and sure enough the more I changed the more everything changed for me."
Excerpted from Jim Rohn's newsletter and from 2004 Jim Rohn Weekend Event with Special Guests Denis Waitley, Brian Tracy and More
We wish you much success in your life and relationships, whatever that means to you, and we welcome your comments.
