Relationship Tips for Keeping Passion in your Relationship
Does the spark have to die in intimate relationships after the "honeymoon" period? We say no and here's why…
Remember how you first felt when you were together? Your heart jumped when your loved one came into the room or you heard his or her voice. You couldn't wait to be together. You went on special dates together and you spent time looking into each others' eyes and talking with one another.
If you've been together any length of time, these feelings have probably faded and maybe have disappeared completely. The two of you might be just saying "hello" and "Who's picking up the kids today?" -going for extended periods of time without having a conversation of any real consequence. Both of you might spend time in front of the television or the computer and not with your loved one truly connecting.
So if it's possible to keep the spark in your relationship, where do you start and what kinds of things can you do?
There are some things that you can do to create and keep relationships that have spark and are alive and growing and we'll share some of those ways in this article and also in a teleseminar series that we are doing starting February 2.
So if it's possible to keep the spark in your relationship, where do you start and what kinds of things can you do?
There are some things that you can do to create and keep relationships that have spark and are alive and growing and we'll share some of those ways in this article and also in a teleseminar series that we are doing starting February 2.
We have been together for many years and we practice what we "preach" to keep our relationship alive and growing. We were both married to other people and learned the hard way about what not to do in a relationship. We learned what we wanted and what we didn't want and then when we came together, consciously decided what we wanted our experience together to be.
Here are briefly some ideas that we use every day to keep passion and connection alive in our relationship and we offer them for you to try:
1. We are clear about our intentions about what want for our relationship and our lives.
2. We are committed to living our lives according to our intentions.
3. We continue to learn the skills and strategies to be able to heal the conflicts and challenges that come up between us quickly and easily-and to keep passion alive.
4. We have our hearts open more of the time to each other. Instead of blaming or worrying about being right-we try to recognize what we are feeling and open our hearts anyway.
5. We are honest with one another.
6. We do not run away when things get tough.
Our belief is that love, passion, intimacy and connection don't have to die and fade away. If you do the kind of things that cultivate love, passion, intimacy and connection on a daily basis, that's what will happen.
We've been together many years and our love, passion, intimacy and connection has only gotten deeper. We know couples who have been together for over 30 years and are still very passionate with one another.
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One afternoon, I was in the backyard hanging the laundry when an old, tired-looking dog wandered into the yard. I could tell from his collar and well-fed belly that he had a home. But when I walked into the house, he followed me, sauntered down the hall and fell asleep in a corner. An hour later, he went to the door, and I let him out. The next day he was back. He resumed his position in the hallway and slept for an hour.
This continued for several weeks. Curious, I pinned a note to his collar: "Every afternoon your dog comes to my house for a nap. "
The next day he arrived with a different note pinned to his collar: "He lives in a home with ten children - he's trying to catch up on his sleep."
I cried from laughter
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Posted by: Melissik | May 2, 2008 11:59 AM