Relationship Advice for Creating Your Best Year Yet
Almost everyone does it-- typically every year around New Years day, people seem to instinctively look back on what happened in the past year and look forward to what they want to change in the new year and we are no different.
Over the past few days we've been taking some time to set our intentions and make some plans for the new year in our work, our personal life, as well as our relationship.
No matter how you celebrate the new year, we invite you to do some conscious planning for how you want your relationships and your life to be like in 2006.
Napoleon Hill said, "Every well-built house started with a definite plan in the form of blueprints."
The question is do you have a set of blueprints for how you want your relationships and your life to be?
We have observed that most of us are fairly unconscious of the direction that our relationships and lives are going.
We go from rushing the kids out the door in the morning, to work, to soccer game, to the grocery store, to household chores--often in a state of auto-pilot.
If you don't decide what it is you want for your life, it will be decided for you by other people.
One thing which is helping to set the direction for our relationship and our lives is the conscious setting of goals. Once again, we are using a book called "Your Best Year Yet" by Jinny Ditzler to help us clarify what's important
to us and what we want to be and do during this year.
We think that goal-setting is a great way to communicate what's important to you and to see where your partner's
steps may be taking them. We've found that it is a very effective communication tool and helps keep the energy
flowing in your relationship.
Most of the e-mail messages that we get from people asking for help in their relationships center around communication problems with a significant other.
Now, we don't think that everyone has to do what we do to have a passionate, alive, connected relationship but it is important to find ways of communicating constantly and connecting that work for you.
We suggest that as you start the new year, you find some ways to communicate your plans, goals, and desires to your partner and listen to theirs. Even if you can't spend a lot of time together each week, we suggest making it a goal to spend 10-15 minutes or more talking about what you want and what is important to each of you.
We think this is important for several reasons. By saying your goals aloud and what's important to you, you have the opportunity to talk about your desires and where you would each like your lives to go. Not only does that allow you to see where you each are headed but by making your desires known, you can discover where you're headed also!
If you don't have a partner, we suggest that you do this with a friend or simply write your goals by yourself to help you see what you want for your life.
When we do this, we've also found that it helps us focus on what we want rather than what we don't want.
We think you'll be surprised at the good things that happen when you do.
For more articles on communication, visit http://www.RelationshipGold.com/Communication/index.htm.
