Love and Relationship Advice Blog

THIS coming Monday May 20th, we're the guest of Matthew and Orna Walters and they're interviewing us live as a part of their Love On Purpose Revolution summit.

We'll be talking about the 6 Shortcuts for how to communicate, connect and click for life.

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Is there such a thing as "bad luck" at love?

Are some people just luckier at love than others?

In today's email, we're tackling these questions and a whole lot more...

When one relationship after another doesn't work out the way you think it should, it might be tempting to think that you've somehow been cursed or you're just plain "bad luck."

You might even be tempted to "give up"--whether you're currently in a relationship that could be a lot better or you can't seem to make a relationship stick.

But there's more to it than that.

Here's what one woman wrote to us (and we can certainly sympathize with her...)

"Thank you for sharing all info to all your readers. I love reading what u shared. I guess I'm just bad luck :( I've tried all ways to treat my man the BEST. But things still don't work out. Sometimes just got to give up."

Now if we were coaching this woman, we'd have a much better idea of her situation and could give her specific ideas to help her to move forward to having a great relationship...

But what we can say is that no one is just "bad luck."

In fact, we don't believe in "luck."

We believe that everyone creates their "luck" and anyone can turn their life around to have more of what they want.

But how--you say?

If you can relate to this woman's frustration, we'll give you a few questions to help unblock you so you can create
what you want...

Continue reading "Are You Relationship "Bad Luck?" (Is there a way to tell?)" »

Posted by Susie and Otto Collins at 03:10 PM | Permalink | Comments (0)

People often ask us--

"How do you keep passion and connection alive in a relationship that isn't "new" anymore?"

This is a great question and we think that it all starts with your intentions. In our relationship, it's our intention to keep our relationship strong, vital alive and growing.

It isn't always easy. But, what we've discovered is that really is possible to keep the magic going long after the honeymoon.

With this idea in mind, this week we wanted to share with you some things you can begin doing right now that can not only keep the passion you have for one another alive but also deepen it as time goes on.

Continue reading "3 ways to keep passion alive long after the honeymoon" »

Posted by Susie and Otto Collins at 01:14 PM | Permalink | Comments (0)

Do you have trouble saying what's really on your mind to the people who are closest to you because you're worried the words will come out wrong and it will hurt them or the relationship?

If that's true for you (and it is for all of us at one time or another), you're not alone.

So many people won't or can't say what's on their minds to their loved ones and that withholding usually ends up causing just as much trouble (or more) as what they feared would happen if they were honest.

Today, we're taking on a question from someone who has been in relationships where she didn't have boundaries and had difficulty saying what was true for her.

And because of this, those relationships became very, very uncomfortable and eventually ended.

Here's her question (and our answer) about maintaining boundaries with someone you really love...

Question from a reader....

"How do I stay true to myself maintaining personal boundaries, independence, and privacy while in a genuinely close loving relationship?"

Susie & Otto's Answer...

We heard a great story the other day that we'd like to tell to help explain our answer.

A man told us that he and his wife had been married for probably 59 years.

Continue reading "Together 59 Years...A Quick Love Lesson..." »

Posted by Susie and Otto Collins at 11:43 AM | Permalink | Comments (0)

A few weeks ago, we were giving a talk on love, passion and communication and someone asked us a great question...

"Susie and Otto, are there ways that some couples communicate that seem to work better than others?"

When this woman asked us this we were taken aback by both its simplicity and its power.

As we thought about her question, we were also struck by how many people aren't really aware that there IS an enormous difference between how some couples communicate who seem to have an incredible love, bond, passion and connection and others who don't.

There are many aspects of communication where people fall short and none of them is any bigger than the words and language we use when we talk to one another.

BTW... This is one of the big reasons why we created our "Magic Relationship Words" book and audio program--because our relationship coaching clients kept saying things to us like...

"Susie and Otto, Our relationship would be so much better if I only knew what to say to my partner to get them to open up to me, talk to me etc..."

We thought... Hummmm...

We're constantly experimenting with what to say to one another that keeps us open to one another.

We know the EXACT words and phrases that make someone want to open to us and you know what?

It can all be summed up by telling you that if you want to learn how to communicate, connect and click with each other--then here's what you're going to want to do....

Talk to them, listen to them and love your partner, spouse or beloved like they are the most special person on earth.

Communicate with them with an open heart and mind.

Open to them even when it's difficult to open.

And... stop the blaming, judging and criticizing.

How you communicate and connect with each other really does matter.

Here are 3 ways couples can learn to talk to one another that keeps love alive and growing throughout the years...

Continue reading "The average couple never talks like this--but they should..." »

Posted by Susie and Otto Collins at 03:39 PM | Permalink | Comments (0)

If jealousy is ruining your relationship and you want to stop it--Tonight is the first class in our "Stop Your Jealousy online and telephone Bootcamp..."

THIS is a MUST attend event for anyone wanting to put an end to their jealousy once and for all..

Get the details or sign up for our "Stop Your Jealousy Bootcamp" here

Otherwise things could get MUCH worse like they did for THIS woman...

She came to us for some one-on-one coaching a few months ago and described her relationship challenges as being caused by ...

Jealousy Spasms...

That's right-- she called her relationship problem "jealousy spasms" and wanted to know if there was a cure for this affliction.

She told us that she had "bouts with jealousy" that just came on totally unexpected with no apparent cause and they caused her to act in ways she would normally never do.

Her "jealousy spasms" would seem to come on "all of a sudden" and "out of the blue" with NO warning.

The way she described her "jealousy spasms" was like what happened to Otto in the middle of the night a few months ago...

Without any kind of warning, Otto was awakened by a really painful cramp or "charley horse" in his right calf that was so intense and so painful that we thought he was going to invent some new curse words because of how badly it hurt.

The big difference between what Otto experienced and what our coaching client was going through was that Otto's spams were physical and this woman's jealousy spasms were totally emotional and they were destroying her relationship.

The last time she had a "jealousy spasm," she yelled at her boyfriend and stalked out of a restaurant where they were having lunch--and she didn't know what came over her or how to stop it.

This woman got to us in time.

With our help she was able to stop her jealousy before it was too late.

This is one of the big reasons that so many people reach out to us for our personal help --because they don't know what to do to stop their jealousy.

The good news for her is that we were really able to help her get control of her jealousy as we worked with beliefs she didn't know she had.

We taught her some ways to identify when the "jealousy spasm" was coming on her so she could stop it before it overwhelmed her and caused her to act in ways that embarrassed her.

The good news for you is that the same strategies that we used to help this woman who had uncontrollable bouts of "jealousy spasms" are what we'll share with you during our Stop Your Jealousy Bootcamp that starts tonight (Tuesday).

if you're jealous...The question is--

Are you going to get the help you need before it's too late or are you going to keep hoping it goes away on its own?

Jealousy ruins relationships.

Don't let it ruin yours.

Posted by Susie and Otto Collins at 11:22 AM | Permalink | Comments (0)

You've heard the term "helicopter parents," right?

If you haven't, a quick search on the internet tells us that the term "Helicopter parents" is often used to define a group of parents who engage in the practice of over-parenting.

Helicopter parents are accused of being obsessed with their children's education, safety, extracurricular activities, and other aspects of their children's lives.

Helicopter parents defend their parenting practices, saying they are only looking out for their children's safety and education, and that they are proud to be so involved in their children's lives.

Well...

Ron is someone we'll call a "Helicopter Husband" and if you were to ask him-- he would say that his hovering behaviors towards his wife are "no big deal..."

Unfortunately his wife Julie doesn't agree and his hovering and innocent detective work have gotten so bad that she's told him that if she finds him snooping around on her cell phone or email account one more time...she's had it and she's leaving.

Ron's jealousy has gotten the best of him before but this time he wondered if he may have gone over the edge (and so did everyone else).

What happened to cause Ron to realize he needed help was perhaps the most embarrassing moment in his entire life.

It was also one of his most costly...

Continue reading "Helicopter Husband's Embarrassing Relationship Moment..." »

Posted by Susie and Otto Collins at 11:18 AM | Permalink | Comments (0)

Want some great tips on upping your desire and fun in the intimacy department?

We had the absolute best time with host Ande Lyons on her "Bring Back Desire" radio show talking about how to bring the spark back into your relationship and you can listen here at no charge.

If you like what you hear, leave a comment and tell others what was helpful.

Again, here's the link--"Bring Back Desire"--and enjoy!

Posted by Susie and Otto Collins at 02:44 PM | Permalink | Comments (0)